Dating : Freedom, Devotion, Desire — Masculine Secrets to Sexual Wisdom

You’re on your way home from the gym. It’s a balmy day. Sunny. You’ve just trained. During your pushing and pulling, through the grit and the pain, you practiced breathing into the base of your pelvis, synchronizing your breath with your movements. Giving everything through smooth control and practiced effort.

You think about your intimate partner as you pass people in the streets. She has been away for a couple of days.

The hot sun and fresh clear sky have brought all the women out.

They’re wearing colourful, cropped tops, light skirts, revealing beautiful fresh skin and bright eyes. In the light, their forms seem to call you as you make your way home.

You continue practicing your breathing, and place your attention wider than any particular woman.

Rather than grab at ass or tits with your eyes, you relax and open your awareness up, breathing each woman in and out as you pass by her.

You don’t even look.

You continue this practice as you step onto the subway. You stand straight and open. You’re widening your attention when you notice a beautiful woman sitting down close you. You continue your practice.

Continuing to breathe and open your awareness, you take in the whole carriage, all the passengers, their luggage, their moods, you’re breathing it all in. As well as your attention and attraction to the beautiful woman.

Suddenly she stands up.

She offers her seat to an older woman next to you. Seems she’s getting off. You see her prepare to get off at the next stop, she moves towards you.

You continue breathing steady and deep. Relaxed and aware.

The other person takes the seat, and now the beautiful woman has come close. She’s come so close your touching. You can feel her skin against yours, her chest rising and falling. Even on the crowded train, you can hear her breath.

You feel your desire. You continue to breathe in openness and appreciation for her energy and beauty. She’s looking at you, and then to the floor. You stand erect and open. Not reacting, not pushing or pulling. Needing nothing. Open and free from her. Not even needing to look at her. Yet you admire her, her energy and kindness, her beauty glowing from within.

You sense the pull of attraction towards her increasing. It’s become quite intense. You continue to breathe and release. She begins to move around you. Her movements a beautiful pattern, like the light outside.

But you notice, she’s gone to the wrong side of the train. The platform is on the other side.

Sensing this, and continuing to breathe, you gently reach out and touch her shoulder. With a little nod and smile, you point to the other side of the train.

Her reaction is swift. An awe-inspiring smile — in a single turn — she opens into a wide-open radiance. Seeing her mistake, she giggles and it sounds like pure joy. You’ve arrived at the station. The doors open. She alights. Turning as she steps out gives you knowing wink as she glides off out of vision.

You breathe out, released at the moment. It is done.

In a situation like this, a woman’s smile and chuckle can transcend mere flirtation or lust. A smile and heart this wide-open can leave you feeling completely restored, alive with love and awed.

Most men experience situations like this, the attraction of beauty and the feminine. Many find themselves beguiled into beauty. It’s natural! In fact. It’s what most men live for if they’re truly honest with themselves.

However, a lot us react at a knee jerk level. Without skill, impulsively, perhaps grabbing at a woman’s form, approaching her, or stealing a look. These men are acting without wisdom on their desire, and encroaching on the form of their desire, a woman in this instance, without understanding. Even if it’s just with their eyes. Some go further, initiating a conversation, or even relationship with the woman, flirting and acting on this lower level impulse. Perhaps it evolves into a sexual interaction, maybe even an affair…

However, men living with masculine purpose and sexual wisdom know that to act on such desires is not necessarily what is best for themselves and everybody who looks to them. Including their girlfriend, wife or children. They know that to act on such desires may lead to some excitement and energy in the short run. But in the long run, if they act on this desire, the desire for a beautiful stranger, the desire to be closer to the radiance of an open-hearted woman, (which is a desire we all feel almost constantly), then they’re going to complicate there lives in the extreme and likely cause lots of unnecessary suffering. They would be a slave to their desires and attractions.

There is another way.

Breath in the beauty, and serve the moment, the woman, the form of your desire with integrity. Devote yourself to the admiration, protection and service of beauty, freedom and love. Not just of your own, but of the woman on the train, the other people on the train, your wife, your children. Everyone! Breath in the beauty, feel your desire, act towards honour, and release. Give and let go. Breath in. Give and let go. This orientation of breathing and the intention to simply serve leaves you confident in your purpose and integrity. More importantly, the desire which was pulling at you so strongly before slides into a feeling of appreciation, energy and freedom.

Let’s go back to the scenario we just looked at.

After your interaction, you step off the train. It’s your stop. Thoughts of your woman come to you, her smile, her radiance. It seeps into your body and awakens your heart.

With practice, an interaction like this can turn every woman’s face into a portal of divine light and rejuvenation. The self-knowledge of your consciousness gives its own, deep satisfaction and feeling of an infinite, wide open ease.

You have passed the test, and been restore and rejuvenated for your effort.

Even if a woman pays you absolutely no attention, when you are open and act with integrity, your body receives their energy and light. Your desire acts like a wave of sexual healing over your warrior’s battle-worn edges. It is literally healing for your body and soul.

This is the secret to masculine sexual wisdom. But don’t take my word for it. Test it for yourself.